There are many quotes devoted to the ill-formed idea of happiness. Many think it’s something that shows up like a package on the doorstep one day with a neatly tied bow, and once it arrives, it can never be taken. Others think happiness requires perfect conditions. Or worse, that it comes in a material form. It rides up in the fastest car to pick up the smartest, cutest kids from school and parks itself in the giant garage of the nicest house your amazing job could buy.
The hard truth is that happiness is a choice. It’s looking at negative things in a positive light. It’s being grateful. It’s letting little things roll off your shoulders, and it’s accepting that everyone, everyone, has flaws. The unhappiest people I know are those who either cannot or will not realize these things and let go.
The fact of the matter is, no one knows what they’re doing. We spend all of our time comparing our behind-the-scenes rehearsals to everyone else’s opening night, but here’s the basic truth: we are all liars. We fake confidence, pride, strength, courage. Life is hard because we make it hard for other people.
Taking from Gandhi’s famous words “be the change you wish to see in the world,” I ask as your final challenge to look at yourself and ask yourself the age-old question: are you happy? At your very core, can you honestly say that if everything you own was taken, would you be satisfied with the people in your life, with the memories you carry around with you? When you allow yourself to realize the things above, you step back and allow yourself to stop fighting against the obstacles you yourself put into place. You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to do it exactly as everyone else is. Life is as hard for ourselves and for others as we make it to be. Below are two links I read as often as I need to about positive change for a better life. If you are happy, truly happy, the feeling can more easily be spread to others around you.
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